DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend and I’ve two youngsters and work reverse night shifts in order that one in every of us is dwelling with the youngsters always. Lately, my greatest pal from highschool shocked me with live performance tickets to our favourite band, however the live performance is on an evening I’m imagined to be with the youngsters.
I don’t have any associates or household round to babysit the youngsters, so I requested my boyfriend if he would take the evening off in order that I can go to this live performance. He instructed me the one manner he would do that’s if I reimburse him for his missed wages (roughly $300). Do you assume it’s truthful to cost me to observe his personal youngsters? — CONFUSED IN NEW HAMPSHIRE
DEAR CONFUSED: Must you reimburse your boyfriend for the wages he’ll miss if he takes off work so you possibly can attend that live performance? If his employer doesn’t present for private day without work, he might be out the cash, and since you’re the one altering your agreed-upon association, you ought to reimburse him. What the 2 of you want to work out sooner or later is a few type of plan so your youngsters might be taken care of within the (hopefully unlikely) occasion that one thing ought to occur to each of you on the identical time.
DEAR ABBY: My spouse and I’ve lived in a rustic dwelling for the previous 25 years. Once we moved right here, our solely neighbors had been wild turkeys, deer and raccoons. Behind our home had been 20 acres of woods, which prolonged right into a cornfield. We had been remoted and beloved it.
Since then, a housing improvement has slowly been constructed round us. Final fall, a pair constructed a home behind us. Their rear deck is inside 20 ft of our property line. The again of their home has massive bed room home windows. They minimize down the entire lovely, mature bushes from their lot.
I’ve all the time had a dusk-to-dawn sensor gentle on the rear of my home for safety causes and to dissuade raccoons. Now this couple is complaining that as a result of their home is so near my property line and the bushes (which acted as a privateness barrier) are gone, my safety gentle of 25 years is shining into their bed room home windows and disturbing them. They need me to do away with it.
After all, my perspective is that we and that gentle have been right here for 25 years. They noticed our home and property strains earlier than they selected to construct there and take away all their bushes. I’m not inclined to accommodate them, however I’m open to solutions from you. — BRIGHT GUY IN OHIO
DEAR BRIGHT GUY: I do have one. Clarify to those new neighbors that your safety gentle was put in to discourage trespassers and wild animals. Then recommend they set up blackout curtains or shutters of their bed room home windows to stop undesirable gentle from seeping in. If that doesn’t clear up the issue, and there’s a governing physique on your rising neighborhood, ask that the matter be mediated.
Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, often known as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Expensive Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
