DEAR ABBY: I’m a younger homosexual man with an issue. I met a cute man, “Mark,” with a candy persona, and the intercourse has been superior. We spent two consecutive nights collectively in a lodge, however two days later he went to church, and he’s now satisfied that being homosexual is incorrect. Mark nonetheless rubs my foot together with his below the desk whereas we eat and kisses me on the lips. He tells me he loves me very a lot, however now I’m getting blended alerts. At night time on our courting app, Mark sends nudes of himself, although he says homosexual intercourse is incorrect. What ought to I do? — MIXED SIGNALS IN GEORGIA
DEAR MIXED SIGNALS: Mark is conflicted about being homosexual as a result of the church he attends made him really feel responsible about it. Discuss with him and recommend that you just really feel he may benefit from counseling to assist him grow to be extra snug about who he’s. There are three LGBTQ group facilities situated in Atlanta. If Mark is unwilling, please perceive it might be a protracted journey for him towards self-acceptance. If you’re not ready to attend, you need to transfer on.
DEAR ABBY: We now have a mutual buddy who’s very pricey to us. He’s a kind-hearted and beneficiant disabled vet who’s too proud to ask for assist. Sadly, as a consequence of his unwell well being and bodily limitations, his house is unkempt. He lives amongst piles of dusty trash, empty cartons, unfinished initiatives, soiled garments and even animal messes. It smells very disagreeable, particularly within the warmth.
The final time I visited, I sat down in what I believed was a “protected” clear spot and got here away smelling of cat urine. Regardless of our repeated affords, he declines our assist to scrub up. Sadly, it’s so unhealthy that folks now not need to go to his dwelling.
He lately volunteered to host a standard vacation gathering for our group of associates, but when he does, I’m afraid nobody will present. (I’m hesitant to eat something ready there anyway, and so are others.) We’ve mentioned transferring the occasion, however we’re afraid it could harm his emotions, since he actually enjoys internet hosting. Plus, what would we are saying?
Renting a small corridor was our first thought, however he’s insistent and excited for the corporate. Your recommendation on how you can method this delicate state of affairs can be appreciated. — IN A TOUGH SPOT IN MICHIGAN
DEAR TOUGH SPOT: Your buddy seems to be a hoarder. He could get pleasure from internet hosting and need firm, nevertheless it isn’t going to occur if persons are afraid to go to his dwelling and eat something due to the filth and the odor. The particular person closest to him has to elucidate to him that though you all love him, his celebration can be higher attended if the celebration was held off-site. He wants to know why others are staying away, and he might have bodily and psychological assist to enhance his state of affairs.
Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, often known as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Expensive Abby at http://www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
